James: Do you know how many people say I would like to be a millionaire and they’ll never be a millionaire because they don’t believe it. They don’t expect it. They’re not ready for it. They are not going to go out and take the real estate course or they’re not going to go and learn how to master a profession. They’re not going to go and start their own business. They’re not going to go and learn wealth principles. They want it, but they don’t expect it because they are not doing anything about it. Their beliefs are… John: They go buy a lottery ticket, scratch it and say “Oh I guess its not for me.” James: Exactly John: Because I don’t expect it. James: I learned in Psychology 101 you don’t get what you want in life. You get what you expect. On the other side of the coin of the example I just gave of expecting a mediocre performance; on the flip side of the coin if you expect great production, if you expect great results, if you expect a great performance, if you expect to be rich, if you expect to attract that person or significant other into your life, if you expect to make more money, if you expect to land that better job then that’s what you’ll start to get because that’s what you’re programming your subconscious for. That is what your subconscious is moving you toward and what is attracting to you. It is like a boomerang. What you choose to throw out chhh is what will come shooting back at you. It all starts with the attitude and what are you ready for. What are you expecting of yourself? Does that make sense?
John: It sure does. Yes. Great. What is the second key then? James: The second key is so, so simple. You’ve got to decide to take action on the adversity when you’re confronted with it. If you don’t take action on the difficulty when you’re faced with it and when you go through difficult situations then the adversity will take action on you. It will beat you down. It will convince you that you’re not good enough. You’re not smart enough. You can’t overcome this challenge. It’ll start convincing you “look where you grew up. Nobody from your family ever overcame that. Nobody in your town. You don’t live on the right side of the tracks.” The adversity, the rejection, if you don’t take action and do something about it when you’re faced with it, it will take action on you and make a bigger black hole for you to suck you down even further. John: Got it. James: You have to do something about it. You have to find a way to go over it, under it, or around it. The only way, hear me now. The only way that you can fail in life is if you decide, hear me, you decide to quit and give up.
John: That’s so profound. That’s cool. James: Can I tell you a story? John: Absolutely lay it on me. James: I live out here in Las Vegas and there’s a fellow speaker and friend of mine who lives out here not too far, about 3 miles from me. His name is Dan Ruettiger. Now, maybe you listening to this don’t know who Dan Ruettiger is, but you probably have seen his movie called Rudy. Have you seen the movie Rudy? John: I sure have. James: Its about Rudy the guy who really wants to go to Notre Dame and play on the Notre Dame football team, but he’s a very small individual. He’s not the typical Division 1 college football player that would be recruited to a Notre Dame and he didn’t have great grades. He was in his 30’s when he was trying to do it because he worked in the mill back in Indiana where he resided. He had all these negatives against him. It’s a great movie. I strongly recommend you see the movie and if you haven’t seen the movie, I watch it every single year. It’s on my calendar every December that I watch the movie Rudy because I would like to kick the year off in a good positive manner.
John: That is great.James: I believe that inspiration and motivational stories like this, movies or books, are so important. Audio CD’s, watching a DVD, it is so critically important to keep doing that and keep inspiring you. I have seen that movie 30 times but I still keep watching it because it keeps reminding me that you can’t quit. You can’t give up. Rudy is a friend of mine and we have done some talks together. You probably know the story of Rudy. If not you’ll watch the movie and you’ll know the story. We went to lunch one day out here in Las Vegas and he told me a story that I believe is even more inspiring than the actual movie Rudy. I asked him I said, “Rudy, how in the world did you get that movie made?” John: Right James: Here is a guy from Indiana who decided he wanted to have a movie made about his life. I said, “How in the world did you get that movie made?” I will never forget what he said. We were sitting at The Legacy Golf course out here in Las Vegas over lunch and his answer was profound. He said, “I don’t know.” He said, “James I really don’t know.” He spent nine years of his life, nine years of his life trying to get people to believe in his dream, to believe in his vision of getting what happened to him when he was trying to get into Notre Dame into school and then trying to make the football team and all this. He spent nine years of his life trying to get people to believe in that and that it needed to be turned into a movie to help inspire people to overcome challenges and to be better. He could never get anyone to take him seriously.
John: Right an old guy from Indiana. James: Nine years. People said, “No, no, no, no, no.” He was constantly being rejected. One day he was working as a custodian at this apartment complex back in Indiana where he was residing. One day he was out in the front of the complex cutting the grass, mowing the lawn and people who he thought were his friends, people who he told about his dream of having his life story turned into a movie came driving by in their vehicles and they had the windows rolled down and they were yelling things out the window like “Hey Rudy. When you going to get that movie made?” “Look at you. You’re a loser. You’re a nobody. You’re cutting the grass.” As I say this I want to say pause because you listening I know that you’ve been in a similar situation where someone has put you down when you told someone about a goal or a dream. You have two choices when you encounter that. You either listen to that stuff or you don’t listen to it. It’s a simple choice. You either hang around them and start believing it or you get away from it and don’t listen to it and don’t believe it. Expect greater things of yourself. Back to the story, Rudy said finally one day he just got mad and got angry. He couldn’t take it anymore. He decided he was going to quit his job. He went in and quit his job. He went to the bank and emptied out his bank account which was five, six, seven hundred dollars. Not a lot of money. He bought an airline ticket, got on an airplane and flew out to California out to Hollywood. If you can imagine this. He was going to start going door to door of these movie studios and ask them to make his movie because nobody would return his calls or answer his letters. Can you imagine he is going out to Hollywood and try to get on…. I said, “Rudy how did you?” I’ve been in Hollywood. I once had an office on Rodeo Drive when I was a full time stockbroker. “How in the world, how did you get past the guard gates?”
John: James I just got chills. I believe when someone gets chills you have to say what’s on your mind. That’s inspiring to me because he took action. He had all of this going against him. He didn’t know what to do. He wasn’t following the right methods of how to get a movie made. He just took action. He did what he had to do, whatever it was in his mind that he thought he had to do and he did it. Look what happened. Go on with the story. James: Even if the action wasn’t the right action at least he knew then a a few incorrect ways to do it and what would probably be the best way. John: Exactly. James: He said he used to just sneak on the lots and climb fences. He wanted to go get a meeting. He just wanted to try and tell somebody about his story. Can you imagine this? This is a little guy from Indiana who gets on a plane without any money, goes out to Hollywood and he’s going to try and convince these big movie executives. Forget about James Cameron and all of the other big Hollywood people, Ron Howard, you have to do my movie. I seems impossible right?
John: Sure James: I learned a line from Rudy one time. He said, “If the dream is big enough the obstacle doesn’t matter.” If the dream is big enough, the obstacle doesn’t matter. If you want it bad enough. It goes back to what I say in another CD if you’ve got a strong red hot why you’ll find a way to make it happen. You’ve got that purpose or reason why you’re doing it. Finally he gets someone, there’s a person who he met who happened to hear of this idea. That’s another thing. When you’re trying to go after your goals you need to tell you’re goals and you’re dreams to other people because you never know who could help you or who could open a door for you. He tells a guy and a guy says something like “well my brother knows someone who did a movie called Hoosiers” which is a great inspirational movie about Indiana basketball. He finally sets up a meeting where Rudy is going to go meet this guy. The guy backs out so Rudy starts calling him. John: The guy backed out of the lunch? James: Yes. The guy backed out, for 3 years he called this guy and for 3 years he was trying to get the person who made the movie Hoosiers to meet him for lunch. For the 3 years the guy said, “no, no, no, no, no.” Finally the person said, “Look Rudy you’ve been calling me for 3 years. I’ll meet you for lunch if you’ll just leave me alone after the lunch.” Talk about persistence.
John: Right James: Rudy said, “I’ll meet you for lunch.” The guy said, “Rudy I’ll meet you for lunch at this restaurant at this time in Santa Monica, California, but I’m telling you Rudy before we get together I’m not making your movie.” John: Really? James: He said because number one “I don’t want to make another Indiana sports movie because I already did one and I don’t want to be labeled…
John: Brand yourself James: Branded and he said number two Rudy I can’t stand Notre Dame. I never liked them in sports. They were our rival because this guy went to Indians University. Rudy said, “That’s okay just meet me for lunch.” He said, I will meet you this day, this time at this restaurant over in Santa Monica. Rudy was so fired up John. He got to that restaurant a few hours early. He couldn’t wait for this guy to walk in to inspire him to make this movie. Four hours later the guy still didn’t show up. So Rudy is walking out of the restaurant and he had his head down. He wasn’t paying attention. He bumped into a mail carrier. Now he had two choices. Treat this person in a good way or treat this person in a negative way based on his attitude. Rudy said, “My attitude was down in the dumps. I really did not want to treat this guy in a good way.” But then he realized nothing comes from focusing on the negative when you’re going through challenges. You always got to focus on the positive and I realized that this guy had nothing to do with my situation.
John: It goes back to key number one, choose the attitude. James: Yes. Choose the attitude. So he decided to treat this mail carrier in a good positive way. He said, “Oh I am sorry. Excuse me I didn’t mean to bump into you.” Then he started to be nice to this guy based on his attitude. He started asking this guy questions like how are you? Basic questions. How long have you been a mail carrier? Do you have any children? How long have you lived in Southern California? This goes on for about 20 minutes. They are just kind of chit chatting on the sidewalk.
John: I am going to guess at one point the postman asked him what do you do? James: And that’s actually what happened. He said, “Rudy you seem like a very nice guy. What are you doing all the way out here from Indiana?” Rudy was all down in the dumps and had his head down and said, “I was supposed to meet a buddy of mine here for lunch.” See he said a buddy still giving the positive attitude as well as the benefit of the doubt. “I was supposed to meet a buddy of mine for lunch, but I think he must have forgotten since he didn’t show up.” Still giving the benefit of the doubt.
John: He must have forgotten.James: He must have forgotten. He knew he got blown off, but he is choosing to have a positive attitude. Right? John: So rather than telling himself I got blown off. This man doesn’t want to see me he said “Oh this guy must have forgotten.” James:He must have forgotten, right. “I was supposed to meet this friend of mine, Mr. Pizo for lunch, but he must have forgotten. Well Sir, it was really nice talking to you. You take care and I’ll see you later.” Rudy turns and starts walking down the street. He gets about ten yards away and the mail carrier yells out, “Hey Rudy! Do you mean Angelo Pizo?” This is the middle of Los Angeles.
John: What 12 million people live in Los Angeles James: Rudy turns around and says, “Yes, I am talking about Angelo Pizo. That’s who I was supposed to meet for lunch.” The mail carrier says, “Well I know Angelo. I have been delivering his mail. His house is right over there.” John: What? James: Now you could call it a coincidence or you could call it the Law of Attraction, the boomerang. What you throw out is what comes back at you. Do you think that was coincidental that that man appeared as Rudy was walking out at that particular time of that day? They happened to bump into one another. Do you think it’s coincidental that Rudy was nice to the guy and they began talking? Do you think its coincidental that Rudy said the name of the guy and the guy says, well I know him? What are the chances? I do not believe that is a coincident. I do not believe there are coincidence. I believe we attract into our life.
Now I don’t want to get hokie dokie on anybody here, but I honestly believe that and I can tell you story after story after story of people who buy into the Law of Attraction and having the right attitude and how they manifests those things into their lives. John: Now lets flip that with the story of Rudy. Imagine if he had had a bad attitude right then. He says, “I got blown off. This is terrible. I give up. I quit.” He walks out, bumps into a mail carrier, get out of my way. He flies home back to Indiana. No movie ever gets made and nobody is every inspired just because he didn’t take action on his challenge. James: Matter of fact I mentioned that to Rudy one time. He said, “If I didn’t bump into that mail carrier I probably wouldn’t have the movie Rudy made. So let me finish the story. The mail carrier said, “His house is right over there.” Rudy said, “Oh thank you.” Rudy went running down the street, went around the corner, went up on the steps and knocked on the front door. Knock, knock, knock. Angelo opened up the door and he said, “Who is it?”
“Its Rudy.” Angelo said, “My God how did you find me?” Rudy said, “It doesn’t matter. You’re late for lunch buddy. Are you ready to make my movie because I am not giving up?” “I don’t care how many hoops I have to jump through. I want you to make this movie or I want you to introduce me to somebody who believes in the vision and the reason why I am doing this. I am not trying to do this to be famous and to make money. I am doing this because the story is going to save and change people’s lives.” “Now I would like you on board to do this or at least put me in contact with somebody who believes in that purpose.” Long story short. Angelo got inspired by what he heard in that thirty second little dialogue and he went on to make the movie Rudy. Now look what it has done. It has inspired lots of people around the world. It has saved people’s lives. I could tell you stories that Rudy has told me of people coming up to him after a talk saying “Your movie saved my kids life.” “Your movie got my kid off drugs.” Your movie did this. Your movie did that.
Now why did this happen? Because one guy, one ordinary individual, like you and I and like the person listening to this, this one ordinary person would not quit when they were faced with adversity and they were knocked down in life. They kept getting up and they kept taking action even though some of the actions they were taking were not getting anywhere or maybe the wrong actions and running him into a wall, but he found the right way that actually got it down. You’ve got to take action when you’re knocked down in life. You should do something about it. Does that make sense? John: That is so powerful. Absolutely. So key number two is make sure you take action when you’re faced with adversity and with challenges. James: Absolutely
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